If you’re wondering whether the guy you’re seeing is really interested in a relationship with you, there are a few signs to look out for.
While it’s not always easy to tell, there are certain behaviors that may indicate he’s just not that into you.
By paying attention to these signs, you can save yourself the heartache of investing time and energy into a relationship that’s not going anywhere.
One of the most obvious signs that a man isn’t interested in a relationship with you is that he doesn’t make time for you.
If he’s always too busy to see you or cancels plans at the last minute, it could be a sign that he’s not that invested in the relationship.
Similarly, if he never initiates plans or seems uninterested in making future plans, he may not be looking for anything serious.
Another sign that he’s not interested in a relationship is that he doesn’t seem to be emotionally invested in you.
If he’s always distant or seems uninterested in getting to know you on a deeper level, it could be a sign that he’s not looking for anything serious.
Similarly, if he’s not interested in talking about his own feelings or doesn’t seem to care about yours, it may be a sign that he’s not interested in a real connection.
Key Takeaways
- Recognizing signs is crucial for understanding relationship intentions
- Beware of behaviors that may indicate a lack of commitment
- Being mindful of these signs will guide your decision-making in dating
21 Shocking Signs He Doesn’t Want A Relationship With You
#1: He Is Hot And Cold
One of the most frustrating things when you are dating someone is when they are hot and cold.
You might feel like you are on an emotional rollercoaster, never knowing where you stand with him. If you are experiencing this, it might be a sign that he doesn’t want a relationship with you.
When a guy is hot and cold, it means that he is inconsistent in his behavior towards you.
One minute he might be showering you with attention and affection, and the next he might be distant and cold.
This can leave you feeling confused and unsure about where you stand with him.
There are a few reasons why a guy might be hot and cold…
One possibility is that he is not sure about his feelings for you. He might be attracted to you but not ready for a relationship, or he might have conflicting emotions that he is struggling to sort out.
Another possibility is that he is playing games with you. Some guys enjoy the thrill of the chase and might intentionally keep you guessing to keep you interested.
This is not healthy behavior, and if you suspect that this is what is going on, it might be time to move on.
If a guy is hot and cold, consider whether you can communicate with him and express your feelings.
Perhaps let him know that his behavior is confusing and that you would like some clarity about where you stand with him.
But – if he is not willing to have an open and honest conversation with you, it might be time to consider moving on.
Remember, you deserve to be with someone who is consistent in their behavior towards you and who is willing to communicate openly and honestly with you.
Here are the in depth reasons guys go hot and cold with women, as explained by Renée and David in this video:
#2: He Has No Open Body Language
One of the most obvious signs that a guy doesn’t want a relationship with you is his body language.
If he’s not open and engaged when he’s around you, it’s a red flag that he’s not interested in pursuing anything serious.
Here are some body language signs to look out for:
- Closed off posture: If he’s crossing his arms or legs, or leaning away from you, it’s a sign that he’s not open to what you’re saying or doing. He may be physically present, but emotionally he’s checked out.
- Contractive body language: Similar to closed off posture is contractive body language. This includes hunching his shoulders over and turning away from you.
- Lack of eye contact: If he’s not making eye contact with you when you’re talking, it’s a sign that he’s not fully present in the conversation. He may be distracted or disinterested.
- Minimal physical touch: If he’s not initiating physical touch, like holding your hand or putting his arm around you, it’s a sign that he’s not interested in taking the relationship to the next level.
- Avoidance of serious conversation: If he’s avoiding conversations about the future, family, or long-term plans, it’s a sign that he’s not interested in committing to anything serious.
- Distracted behavior: If he’s constantly checking his phone or looking around the room, it’s a sign that he’s not fully engaged in the conversation or the relationship.
If you’re seeing these signs in your guy, it’s important to have an honest conversation with him about where he sees the relationship going. Don’t be afraid to define the relationship and ask him about his feelings and intentions. If he’s not willing to have that conversation or if he’s seeing other people, it’s time to move on.
Remember, you deserve someone who is willing to make time for you, communicate openly, and is emotionally available. Don’t settle for anything less.
#3: He Won’t Introduce You to His Family and Friends
One of the most obvious signs that a guy doesn’t want a relationship with you is if he doesn’t introduce you to his family and friends.
If he’s serious about you and sees a future together, he’ll want to share his life with you and introduce you to the important people in his life.
If he’s not introducing you to his family and friends, it could mean that he’s not interested in a long-term commitment with you. It could also mean that he’s not proud to be with you or that he’s keeping his options open.
Keep in mind that some guys are just private and don’t like to share their personal lives with others.
However, if he’s active on social media and posts pictures with his friends and family, but doesn’t include you, it’s a red flag.
Related reading: How to Get Him to Commit To You: 16 Easy Steps For When You’re Tired of Waiting.
If you’ve been dating for a while and he still hasn’t introduced you to anyone in his life, it’s time to think about whether he’s really the type to commit to you.
You can also find out how commitment-friendly he is using this free quiz: QUIZ: Is your man serious about committing to you? CLICK HERE to find out with this specially crafted quiz!
#4: He’s Still Got Something Going on with a Past Relationship
One of the biggest red flags in a relationship is when a guy is still hung up on someone from his past.
If he’s constantly talking about his ex or bringing her up in conversations, it’s a sign that he hasn’t fully moved on.
What’s worse is that you could be the rebound girl, and you don’t want that.
Another red flag is if he’s still in contact with his ex, especially if it’s happening behind your back.
If he’s texting her or talking to her on social media, it’s a sign that he’s not fully committed to you and is still holding onto feelings for his ex.
If he’s not willing to be exclusive with you or commit to a serious relationship, it could be because he’s still holding onto the hope of getting back together with his ex. This is a sign that he’s not fully invested in your relationship and is not ready to move on.
If he’s constantly comparing you to his ex or bringing up things that they used to do together, it’s a sign that he’s not over her and is still holding onto those memories.
Note it’s also a possible sign you’re in a rebound relationship, so be careful.
This can be hurtful and damaging to your self-esteem, and it’s important to address this behavior with him.
It’s also important to pay attention to his actions and not just his words.
If he’s saying that he’s over his ex but is still showing her attention or going out of his way to help her, it’s a sign that he’s not fully committed to you and is still trying to be her hero.
#5: He Never Spends The Night Over
Another of the signs that a guy doesn’t want a serious relationship with you is if he never spends the night over.
If he always leaves after spending time with you, it could be a red flag that he’s not interested in anything more than a casual relationship.
If a man is serious about you, he will want to spend as much time with you as possible.
Spending the night together is a sign of intimacy and closeness, and it can be a great way to strengthen your connection.
If he’s not willing to spend the night, it could be a sign that he’s not ready for that level of commitment.
It’s important to have a conversation with him about why he never spends the night. Ask him if he’s not comfortable sleeping over or if there’s something else going on. If he’s not willing to have an honest conversation with you, it could be a sign that he’s not interested in a serious relationship.
Another thing to consider is if he’s reliable. If he’s always canceling plans or not showing up when he says he will, it could be a sign that he’s not serious about you.
A man who is interested in a serious relationship will make an effort to be reliable and consistent.
If you feel like he’s very inconsistent and you feel hurt and angry about it (or even used), there are two words I recommend you say to him to stay high value and to capture his undivided attention immediately:
#6: He’s Emotionally Unavailable
One of the biggest red flags that a guy doesn’t want a serious relationship with you is if he is emotionally unavailable.
This means that he is not willing or able to share his feelings, thoughts, and emotions with you.
He may be distracted, distant, or withdrawn, and he may not initiate contact or define the relationship.
Here’s a really good Live Q and A by relationship experts D.Shen and Renée on How to Deal With Emotionally Unavailable Men:
If you find yourself constantly apologizing for his behavior or trying to coax him into opening up, it’s time to take a step back and evaluate the situation.
While it’s natural to want to help someone you care about, it’s not your job to fix him or change him.
If he’s not willing to put in the effort to be emotionally available, it’s a warning sign that he’s not interested in a serious relationship.
Some signs that a guy is emotionally unavailable include:
- He doesn’t want to define the relationship or make long-term plans.
- He gets annoyed or angry when you try to talk about your feelings or expectations.
- He’s seeing other people or wants to keep things casual.
- He’s only interested in sex and doesn’t want to commit to a monogamous relationship.
- He’s always distracted or doesn’t pay attention to you when you’re together.
- He doesn’t initiate contact or respond to your texts or calls in a timely manner.
MORE: How to Get An Emotionally Unavailable Man to Chase You: 14 Genius Ways.
If you’re feeling frustrated or confused about his behavior, remember this:
It’s your job to stay high value in the situation. Keep your high value always, because if you don’t, then you’ll do things you regret and push him away even more.
So make sure you don’t grovel or get too desperate, as this will lower your value, which never feels good for you.
There are typical signs a woman is acting low value (to all men), and I recommend you avoid them like the plague…
CLICK here to discover the 7 common signs that a woman is perceived as low value in the eyes of men in this special report. (Why is this important? Because men and women perceive value very differently and you don’t want to be making mistakes that would cause quality men to dismiss, abandon or alienate you.)
#7: He Doesn’t Put Effort Into Getting To Know You More Personally
One of the most important aspects of a relationship is getting to know each other on a personal level.
If you feel like the guy you’re seeing isn’t putting in any effort to get to know you, it could be a sign that he’s not interested in a serious relationship.
If he’s not asking you questions about yourself, your interests, or your life, it could be a red flag.
A guy who is interested in you will want to know more about you and will make an effort to learn about your life.
Another sign that he’s not interested in a serious relationship is if he’s not making plans with you.
If he’s not willing to commit to plans or doesn’t seem interested in spending time with you, it could be a sign that he’s not looking for anything serious.
If he’s not giving you his full attention when you’re together or is always distracted by his phone, it could be a sign that he’s not interested in you.
A guy who is serious about a relationship will make an effort to be present and engaged when he’s with you.
Remember, you deserve someone who is willing to put in the effort and is committed to building a strong and healthy relationship with you.
If you’re not getting that from the guy you’re seeing, it may be time to move on and find someone who is willing to be your hero.
#8: His Heart Feels Completely Closed to You
One of the most common signs he doesn’t want a relationship with you is when his heart feels completely closed to you.
You may feel like he’s emotionally unavailable or distant, and that he’s not interested in being in a serious relationship with you.
If you’re in a relationship with a guy who seems to be emotionally unavailable, it’s important to have an open and honest conversation with him.
You can start by expressing your feelings and asking him how he feels about the relationship. If he’s not interested in being in a serious relationship, it’s important to respect his decision and move on.
Another sign that his heart feels completely closed to you is when he’s distracted or not paying attention to you.
If he’s constantly checking his phone or seems to be more interested in something else, it could be a sign that he’s not interested in being in a serious relationship with you.
If you’re seeing signs that he doesn’t want a relationship with you, it’s important to define the relationship and make sure you’re on the same page.
You can initiate this conversation by asking him what he wants out of the relationship and if he’s seeing other people.
If he’s not interested in being monogamous or doesn’t want to define the relationship, it’s important to respect his decision and move on.
It’s also important to pay attention to his emotions and how he reacts to certain situations.
If he seems annoyed or angry when you bring up the topic of a serious relationship, it could be a warning sign that his heart feels completely closed to you.
On the other hand, if he’s open and willing to have a conversation about your long-term plans and expectations, it could be a sign that he’s interested in being in a serious relationship with you.
#9: You’re The One Putting Out All the Effort
One of the clearest signs that a guy doesn’t want a relationship with you is when you’re the one putting out all the effort.
If you’re always the one initiating conversations, making plans, and trying to spend time with him, while he seems indifferent or uninterested, it’s a major red flag.
When a guy is truly interested in you and wants to pursue a serious relationship, he will make an effort to show it.
He will initiate conversations, ask you out on dates, and make plans to spend time with you. If you’re the one doing all of the work, it’s a sign that he doesn’t see you as a priority or isn’t interested in anything more than a casual fling.
Another sign that you’re the one putting out all the effort is when he doesn’t make any effort to be exclusive or commit to you.
If he’s still active on dating apps or social media, or if he’s not willing to have a conversation about being exclusive, it’s a clear indication that he’s not interested in anything serious.
It’s important to pay attention to how much attention he’s giving you as well.
If he’s always busy or unavailable when you want to spend time together, or if he’s not responding to your texts or calls in a timely manner, it’s a sign that he’s not making you a priority.
#10: He Never Meets The Parents
If he never introduces you to his family, that’s a red flag for sure.
This can work both ways, as you may also feel hesitant to introduce him to your family.
It’s important to remember that meeting the parents is a big step in a relationship, and it can indicate that both parties are serious about each other.
If your guy never brings up the topic of meeting your parents, it could be a sign that he’s not interested in a long-term commitment.
He may not see a future with you and doesn’t want to take things to the next level.
On the other hand, if you’re hesitant to introduce him to your family, it could be a sign that you’re not sure about your feelings for him.
Another factor to consider is the importance of family in your relationship.
If you come from a close-knit family, it may be important for you to introduce your guy to your parents.
However, if he doesn’t value family as much, he may not see the importance of meeting your parents.
It’s also important to consider the timing of introducing your guy to your family.
If you’ve only been dating for a short period of time, it may be too soon to introduce him to your family.
However, if you’ve been dating for a while and he still hasn’t brought up the topic of meeting your parents, it could be a red flag.
In today’s society, social media can also play a role in meeting the parents. If your guy is active on social media but never posts about you or your relationship, it could be a sign that he’s not committed to you.
In conclusion, if your guy never meets the parents or shows a lack of interest in meeting them, it could be a sign that he’s not interested in a long-term commitment.
However, it’s important to consider all factors, including the importance of family in your relationship and the timing of introducing your guy to your parents.
#11: He Forgets Plans With You
One of the most obvious signs that a guy doesn’t want a serious relationship with you is when he forgets plans with you.
If he’s constantly canceling or rescheduling dates, or worse, forgetting about them entirely, it’s a major red flag.
It shows that he’s not making you a priority in his life and doesn’t value your time.
When a guy is truly interested in you, he’ll make an effort to keep his commitments and follow through on plans.
He’ll be reliable and attentive, and he’ll make sure that you feel valued and appreciated. But if he’s forgetting plans with you, it’s a clear indication that he’s not invested in the relationship and doesn’t see a future with you.
If you can clearly see that he’s not willing to make changes and show you the attention and commitment you deserve, it’s time to move on and find someone who will.
Remember, you deserve to be with someone who is excited about the future and willing to put in the effort to make the relationship work.
Don’t settle for someone who doesn’t value you and your time. Keep an eye out for this red flag, and trust your instincts if you feel like something isn’t right.
#12: You’ve Never Met His Friends
One of the most telling signs that a guy doesn’t want a relationship with you is if he has never introduced you to his friends.
If you have been dating for a while and he still hasn’t made any effort to introduce you to his social circle, it could be a sign that he is not interested in anything serious with you.
Meeting his friends is an important step in any relationship, and it’s a sign that he is willing to commit and take things to the next level.
If he hasn’t brought you around his friends, it could mean that he doesn’t see a future with you.
It’s possible that he wants to keep his dating life separate from his social life, but if he is serious about you, he should be willing to introduce you to his friends eventually.
If he doesn’t, it could be a red flag that he is not interested in anything long-term.
Another reason he may not want to introduce you to his friends is that he doesn’t want to be seen as having a girlfriend.
If he is not ready to commit, he may not want to introduce you to his friends and have them assume that you are his girlfriend.
It’s also worth noting that some guys may not be as social as others. If he doesn’t have many friends or doesn’t go out often, then it may not be as big of a deal.
However, if he is active on social media and seems to have a busy social life, then it’s a red flag that he hasn’t introduced you to his friends.
In summary, if you have been dating a guy for a while and he hasn’t introduced you to his friends, it could be a sign that he is not interested in a relationship with you.
Meeting his friends is an important step in any relationship, and if he is serious about you, he should be willing to introduce you to his social circle.
#13: He Doesn’t Mention You On Social Media Platforms
Yep, this one is a big warning sign that he doesn’t value you.
Social media has become an integral part of our lives, and it’s a way to showcase our relationships to the world. If a guy is serious about you, he will want to show you off to his friends and family, including on social media.
If you notice that your guy never posts pictures of you or mentions you on social media, it could be a sign that he doesn’t want a relationship with you.
It’s possible that he wants to keep his options open or doesn’t want to commit to you. Alternatively, he could be hiding you from someone else, like an ex-girlfriend.
You should also note that not everyone is comfortable sharing their personal life on social media, and this could be the case with your guy.
However, if he is active on social media and posts frequently, but never mentions you, it could be that his heart is not in it.
Another reason why a guy might not mention you on social media is that he doesn’t want to give you too much attention.
Attention in what way? That will be something for you to work out over time.
#14: He Acts Weird When You Bring Up The Topic Of A Relationship
When you bring up the topic of a relationship, does he suddenly become distant or avoidant?
This could be a sign that he is not interested in pursuing a relationship with you.
MORE: 9 Alarming Reasons Why Guys Distance Themselves After Intimacy.
One possible explanation for this behavior is that he may not be ready for a committed relationship at this time.
He may be enjoying the casual nature of your interactions and not want to complicate things with a label.
Alternatively, he may simply not see you as a long-term partner and does not want to lead you on.
If he seems uncomfortable or anxious when you bring up the topic of a relationship, it may be a signs he’s not ready.
If he is not on the same page as you, it may be time to reevaluate the relationship and consider moving on.
It may also be worth considering the fact that men have women they keep around for sex, and women they fall in love with and commit to.
The difference between these two boils down to whether you’re in the guy’s “one and only” basket or the “one of many” basket.
Lots of us women fall into the one of many basket, and yes, you can be the “one of many” for decades, and never see him make steps to commit to you.
So always ensure you’re in the one and only basket for every man you wish to date! Here are 5 5 secrets on how to do that.
#15: He Exhibits Distant Behaviour
If you notice that he’s becoming increasingly distant or withdrawn when you’re together, it could be a bad sign.
This might include:
- Avoiding eye contact
- Providing short answers, and
- Taking a longer time than usual to respond to your texts and calls
If this is a sudden change, you need to take notice and try to figure out why this is happening.
He could be seeing someone else, but he could also just be going through a stressful time.
Make sure you are discerning and don’t jump to conclusions too quickly.
#16: He Says He “Doesn’t Like Labels”
When a man is hesitant to call your relationship a “relationship” or uses phrases like “let’s just see where this goes,” it can be a red flag that he’s not interested in being exclusive.
This can indicate that he’s not really committed to the idea of having a serious relationship with you.
#17: He Says He’s Not Looking For A Serious Relationship
It’s important to take his words seriously, because guys usually do mean it.
If he tells you he’s not looking for a serious relationship, believe him.
This is a clear sign that he doesn’t want anything more than a casual arrangement.
#18: He’s Still Dating Others
If he’s still seeing other people and doesn’t show any signs of wanting to be exclusive, it’s a clear indication that he’s not looking for a committed relationship with you.
This should be obvious, but sometimes us girls hang around too long, thinking that the man will change.
If he’s not committing now, then what exactly is it that makes you think he will commit in the future, and commit genuinely?
There could be real reasons in your case, but you should be sure that you can trust in those reasons.
By the way, there is ONE specific emotional trigger within every masculine man that makes him commit – for life. Do you know what this one emotional trigger is and how to use it on him?
#19: He’s Not Affectionate With You
A lack of affection can signal that he doesn’t see you as a romantic partner and doesn’t have strong feelings for you.
If he avoids physical touch or rarely shows affection, it could be a sign that he doesn’t want a relationship with you.
#20: He’s Never Shown Accountability
Accountability is important in a healthy relationship.
If he never takes responsibility for his actions or keeps breaking promises, it might indicate that he’s not serious about building a strong and trustworthy relationship with you.
Any half decent partner would at least try to take a look at their own behavior and adjust it if needed.
#21: He Doesn’t Care About How You Feel
This one tops off all the other signs perfectly, and it is a really important one:
If he’s consistently disregarding your feelings or brushing off your emotions, it may signal that he’s not emotionally available or interested in having a deeper connection with you.
All guys care how their girl feels if they love her. Don’t trick yourself into thinking they don’t!
Why Does He Keep Me Around If He Doesn’t Want A Relationship?
There are many reasons why a guy might keep you around even if he doesn’t want a relationship. Here are some possibilities:
- He enjoys your company and likes spending time with you, but he is not interested in a serious relationship.
- He likes the attention and affection you give him, but he is not ready for commitment or doesn’t want to be tied down to one person.
- He is lonely and wants someone to talk to or hang out with, but he is not interested in a romantic relationship.
- He is seeing other people or keeping his options open, but he still wants to keep you in his life as a friend or friend with benefits.
- He is emotionally unavailable or has commitment issues, but he enjoys your company and doesn’t want to let you go.
What to Do: Should You Cut Him Off?
If after reading this article you are sure he doesn’t want a serious relationship with you, then I recommend you cut him off.
Not out of malice, but out of self respect and out of a desire to keep your high value.
You don’t want to be treated like you’re just some woman. You want to be cherished, so be ready to walk away.
One thing you can do it ask yourself this question:
Are you this guy’s one and only? Or have you more likely been placed in his “one of many” basket?
Remember not to settle for less than being “the one and only”.
If you do, you could end up stuck in a dead end relationship for years, only to see him fall in love with someone else and commit in a heartbeat.
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Signs He Doesn’t Want a Relationship with You Through Text
If you’re wondering whether the guy you’re texting is really interested in a relationship with you, pay attention to his texting habits. Here are some signs that he might not be as committed as you are:
Texts Are Short and Infrequent
If he only sends you short, infrequent texts, it might be a sign that he’s not that into you. When someone is truly interested in you, they’ll make an effort to communicate with you regularly and keep the conversation going.
He Avoids Making Plans
If he’s not open to making plans with you in advance, it might be a sign that he’s not interested in a serious relationship. Someone who’s serious about building a relationship with you will make an effort to plan things in advance and commit to spending time with you.
He Doesn’t Respond to Your Texts in a Timely Manner
If he takes a long time to respond to your texts, or doesn’t respond at all, it might be a sign that he’s not interested in a relationship with you. When someone is truly interested in you, they’ll make an effort to respond to your texts in a timely manner and keep the conversation going.
He Doesn’t Initiate Texts or Conversations
If he never initiates texts or conversations with you, it might be a sign that he’s not that interested in you. When someone is truly interested in you, they’ll make an effort to initiate conversations and keep the communication going.
He Only Texts Late at Night
If he only texts you late at night, it might be a sign that he’s only interested in a booty call. When someone is truly interested in you, they’ll make an effort to communicate with you at all times of the day, not just when it’s convenient for them.
His Texts Lack Emotion or Enthusiasm
If his texts lack emotion or enthusiasm, it might be a sign that he’s not that interested in you. When someone is truly interested in you, they’ll make an effort to show their emotions and enthusiasm through their texts.
He Doesn’t Use Terms of Endearment
If he never uses terms of endearment, it might be a sign that he’s not that interested in you. When someone is truly interested in you, they’ll make an effort to use terms of endearment to show their affection.
He’s Always Too Busy to Respond
If he’s always too busy to respond to your texts, it might be a sign that he’s not that interested in you. When someone is truly interested in you, they’ll make an effort to respond to your texts as soon as they can.
He Doesn’t Ask You Questions
If he never asks you questions, it might be a sign that he’s not that interested in getting to know you. When someone is truly interested in you, they’ll make an effort to ask you questions and get to know you better.
He Sends Mixed Signals
If he sends mixed signals, it might be a sign that he’s not that interested in a relationship with you. When someone is truly interested in you, they’ll make an effort to be clear about their intentions and feelings.
He’s Not Interested in Meeting Your Friends or Family
If he’s not interested in meeting your friends or family, it might be a sign that he’s not that interested in a serious relationship. When someone is truly interested in you, they’ll make an effort to get to know the important people in your life.
