So, you met a guy you REALLY like. You are keen to grab his attention but are unsure how or where to start.
You’re not alone in this dilemma.
Women in general are puzzled about how to capture a man’s attention, primarily because men are not known to be emotional creatures or are not good at expressing their emotions.
But there is a key to make a guy go crazy for you, and it lies in your ability to trigger emotional attraction.
This means you’ll have to appeal to his emotions.
You can do this by:
- Connecting to his emotions
- Creating excitement; and
- Triggering romantic tension.
The 6 steps below will help you accomplish this.
How To Make A Guy Crazy About You: Trigger His Emotions
But here’s the thing: research from the Psychology department of the University of Michigan reveals that men are just as emotional as women.
The study evaluated 142 men and women and determined that emotional fluctuations are similar in men and women.
Another research sheds light on the differences in men’s and women’s abilities to express emotions.
This study evaluated two aspects of emotional response: emotional reactivity and emotion regulation.
Men are better at managing both responses, whereas women are more expressive in words or facial expressions.
With this in mind, women must be aware that men do have the capacity to feel and express emotions.
If you want to know how to make him crazy for you, you can use these insights to elicit the kind of response you want from a man.
Unfortunately, there are no secret tricks to making him fall for you.
However, there are strategies that you can use to make yourself irresistible in his eyes.
This guide takes you through these strategies and one major mistake many women are guilty of (that you should definitely avoid.)
Keep reading to find out more…
How to Make Him Crazy for You: 5 Strategies that Work!
Unlocking what drives a man crazy about a woman is the first step to making the man of your dreams reciprocate your feelings.
Lucky for you, men are pretty straightforward.
Even while each guy is different, dropping subtle hints and keeping him intrigued can get the job done.
Tap Into His Hero Instinct
The Hero Instinct in a man is one of the unique concepts in relationship psychology.
If you can master this one, you’ll also unravel how to make him crazy for you!
The Hero Instinct is a man’s primal urge to provide, protect, and serve his woman.
It refers to the man’s constant desire to be respected and valued in a relationship. It’s not just a psychological concept but part of a man’s biological drive.
So, how do you activate his hero instinct to make him fall for you?
One of the practical steps to unlock his hero instinct is to ask for his help.
Men have this biological ‘superhero complex’, and they want to ‘save’ you – think ‘damsel in distress.’
Whether it’s something as simple as asking him to carry your grocery bag or twisting open a jar, it boosts a man’s confidence knowing they can come to your rescue.
In turn, it helps him to feel you as a feminine, vulnerable woman who needs him.
Another way to make a man go crazy for you is to let him protect you.
Men are biologically wired to keep you safe whenever you are out in public or even when you’re not physically together.
So for example, when you go out late at night, he may text and ask if you got home safely.
Or he would offer to pick you up and drive you home.
Let him do this, and acknowledge what he’s doing.
Give him appreciation and let him know those efforts don’t go unnoticed.
Be Your Confident Self
Confidence is sexy!
If you want to unlock the secrets of what drives a man crazy about a woman, tap into your confident self.
Being self-confident is about having a solid sense of self esteem inside.
When you have a solid self esteem, you don’t seek external validation because you know who you are and what you bring to the table.
Men find that kind of presentation of high value very hard to resist.
Being your confident self should not be confused with arrogance, though.
There is a fine line that separates the two.
If you cross that line, some men might be turned off. Instead, project confidence while maintaining healthy respect for others as well as humility.
Both men and women like kindness in a mate. So if you’re too arrogant, it will take away from how kind you can be to a man.
On the flip side, men are turned off by insecure women as insecure women tend to show signs of low value.
It’s not your fault – but it is something to be aware of.
By the way, did you know:
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(Why is this important? Because men and women perceive value very differently and you don’t want to be making mistakes that would cause quality men to dismiss, abandon or alienate you.)
Everyone is insecure sometimes. Yet you can still be insecure and project high value vibes by learning to be vulnerable rather than trying hard to act like you’re too good for insecure feelings.
It sounds trite, but it really is true:
If you want to attract a man and make him crazy about you, you must learn to love and accept yourself first.
Use High Value Banter to Build Attraction
What is high value banter?
High value banter is the “dark feminine” art of bantering with a man to create playful conversations that inspire attraction.
Essentially, banter works because it’s exciting and it inspires deeper conversations at the same time.
More importantly, banter creates romantic tension and emotional attraction – and emotional attraction is essential if you want him to fall in love with you.
It is not enough to only have physical attraction if you want to know how to make him crazy for you.
It is not enough to be physically appealing.
You need to inspire him to feel for you deeply. So deeply that he becomes hyper-focused on you and only you – for life.
So why does banter create that spark for a man?
Because banter speaks to the masculine soul.
Banter creates that playful challenge in a conversation that boring ladies cannot offer.
Here’s an example of high value banter from the banter master and expert, D.Shen:
You: You know what I love about you?
Him: What do you love about me?
You: “Absolutely nothing! [insert playful emoji here]”.
This is all said with playful intent. You’re never trying to be manipulative or mean. That’s the opposite of the intent of bantering.
If you’d like more free examples of high value banter you can use, CLICK here to take D.Shen’s FREE class on High Value Banter.
Be Unpredictable & Spontaneous
During the initial stages of dating, unpredictability and some level of spontaneity can keep the excitement level up, especially for men.
I don’t mean go nuts and create havoc in his world, because you don’t want to cause him more stress.
The point is not to cause more stress, but rather, cause more spontaneity and excitement between you both.
If you want him to go crazy about you, keep him on his toes and guessing.
Randomly show up in his workplace to surprise him (making sure that it’s a surprise you know he would perceive value in of course.)
Don’t be annoying and show up during a meeting, that would just be…annoying. Even if you’re well-intentioned.
Try different things when you go out on dates. One night you’re having pizza at a local pizza shop, the next, you’re watching a football game.
Being unpredictable is attractive to men because they always love a challenge.
Plus, it never gets boring. There is always something new for him to look forward to when you’re hanging out. This sort of excitement makes him think about you all the time.
Play Hard to Get
Want to know what drives a man crazy about a woman? Play hard to get.
The European Journal of Personality published research explaining the psychology behind this move. According to the study, people who play hard to get appear more confident.
Putting a distance between you and a potential partner increases their desire for you, especially if you make them work hard for your attention.
What makes playing hard to get effective?
The more you pull away, the more your perceived value increases in the eye of the opposite sex. In addition, being this picky means that you have other choices at your disposal.
And that makes you a more viable partner.
A study published in Psychological Science reveals that making your feelings unknown to the other sex can make them more interested in you.
You’re like a puzzle they want to figure out. It’s exploring the possibilities in your relationship that draws them in.
If you want a man to go chasing after you, it’s best to withhold information about you or any intimate encounter.
However, there is also an art to playing hard to get.
Make sure you reveal enough to entice him but don’t withhold love and information from him for too long, or else the mystery will die.
Eventually, he will get tired of the games and look elsewhere.
So how do you play hard to get effectively?
Do it to be playful. Don’t do it to control things (or him).
Access Your Feminine Energy
Feminine energy refers to the set of qualities of being a female, however even men have feminine energy.
It’s just that most women are primarily more feminine at their core and in their biology.
Related: How to Be More Feminine: 18 Qualities of A Feminine Woman.
Those are qualities that a lot of men find irresistible. You must learn to channel that energy to make a man fall for you.
Feminine energy is linked to the softer, compassionate side of you that loves connection. It’s about celebrating what makes you a woman.
Men find it attractive because you project a softer, more sensual and playful nature. This vibe makes you more receptive to a man’s advances.
How do you manipulate your feminine energy to attract a man?
- Access the pleasure in your body, to soften yourself up
- Be responsive to him
- Remove your masks that you put on to try to look capable
And how do you look more feminine on the outside?
- Take care of your appearance
- Dress nicely when you’re around him
- Indulge in self-care
- Speak softly but assertively when around him
He will notice and appreciate that soft and gentle side of you, but there is also intense female energy behind that.
When he sees how you take care of yourself, he will want to do the same thing to you. He’d be raring at the chance to show you that!
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ONE Mistake to Avoid
If you follow the above tips on how to make him crazy for you, he won’t be able to stop thinking of you.
Soon enough, he’ll feel like he could hardly get enough of you, and he’ll make the first move (if he hasn’t already).
But don’t ruin your chances of attracting the right man by committing this one mistake….
Having Undercover Negative Beliefs About Men.
It could be that you’ve had your heart broken a few times.
As a result, you find it challenging to trust men again, and it manifests in your behavior around them.
Men can sense when you don’t trust or believe them for no good reason (reasons that pertain to your past and not to them) – and that’s a huge turn-off!
You’re allowed to have trust issues of course – some of us really do and that’s the honest truth.
But you have to be aware of it, because:
It’s a form of self-sabotage.
If you believe that all men can’t stay faithful, you will manifest that belief into reality. And no man would want to be involved with someone who can’t trust him!
Well, there’s a little-known secret as to why…
It’s because men find your trust high value and….wait for it….Erotic.
Yes, erotic. They’re actually turned on by your feminine surrender and trust.
So what can you do if you know you have trust issues with regards to men?
No, you shouldn’t throw in the towel. You don’t have to wait until you’re healed to date – far from it.
It’s ok to date men even when you’re emotionally broken, as long as you’re willing to be vulnerable still.
Just don’t let your lack of trust for men overshadow your willingness to try to trust them.
Instead, start looking at men as individuals.
Another man’s actions (from your past) do not mean that all men behave that way.
The sooner you realize this, the easier it is to attract the right man in your life.
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There you have it, the six little-known answers to how to make him crazy for you!
However, one thing to keep in mind is that every guy is different.
Therefore, it’s essential to assess a man’s personality and pick two strategies from the above list that would work best for him.
But if you can figure him out, it won’t be long until he goes nuts over you.
Frequently Asked Questions
How do you make him think about you every time?
Make yourself the object of his fascination by being attractive and enticing enough.
However, don’t give away too much of yourself. Instead, tease him just enough that he keeps wanting more of you.
What makes a man fall deeply in love?
It requires a combination of physical attraction and emotional attraction.
But if you want to focus on ONE thing, you want to be your authentic, vulnerable self.
You don’t want him to fall in love with an image you’re merely projecting.
Because first of all, it won’t be real love, it will just be what he is willing to buy into on the surface, and if he gets a whiff of your true vulnerability, he’ll leave.
How to make him crazy about you in a long distance relationship?
Stay in communication with him with the intent to build emotional connection.
Emotional connection can be built through interacting with him on different mediums, like video chat, text message as well as playing online games.
Another thing you can do is surprise him with a brief call in the middle of the day – that will make him miss you more.
But also, set aside days when you don’t initiate contact and let him call you first.