Welcome to the latest installment of Ms. Opinionated, in which readers have questions about the pesky day-to-day choices we all face, and I give advice about how to make ones that (hopefully) best reflect our shared commitment to feminist values—as well as advice on what to do when they don't.
Dear Ms. Opinionated,
My close friend is getting married to a man who is, for lack of a better word, a jerk. When he has disagreements with her, he resorts to meanness and personal attacks almost instantly. He also does the same thing to me -- albeit only on the internet. If I post something on my Twitter or Facebook that he disagrees with, he'll never disagree politely. Instead, he flies off the handle and starts posting mean-spirited comments and sending me mean messages.
I almost passed on blogging about Bride Wars, which opens this weekend, because it seemed, well, almost a little too easy to call it out for its shabby, mean-spirited treatment of women. After all, this is a film about two lifelong pals who abandon their friendship in favor of an epic, demeaning catfight over their unbelievably lavish and costly dream weddings. Bridezilla, thy name is woman...
But Anne Hathaway wants me to set aside my preconceptions about Bride Wars because, she claims, there's actually an empowering narrative about women in the film!