queer weddings

As a tomboy bride, I BARELY wanted to wear a dress, let alone something that looked like to me like a cupcake. 

The wedding industry, and pop culture in general, is so bossy about what everyone's experience of gender is. Hey, Wedding Crap Culture! Not everyone is a pile of princess fantasies! And stop telling all humans to lose weight! Stop counseling us all on up-dos!

"What will your wedding day hair be, Michael?" It will just be my hair. It's short and sits there on my head quite well.

Basically, I ended up scrapping traditional wedding sites and advice all together in favor of finding a solution that fit with my gender identity and expression.

I'm a Scorpio rising; nobody puts me in a corner—gender or otherwise. But enough about me.

Good news! Just like you don't have to wear white, you also don't have to wear a dress, nor do you have to wear a floofy dress. Nor does anyone have to wear a tux, formal suit, etc.! 

Some wedding and non-wedding idea boards for wedding fashion for a small sampling of tomboy "types"...

One thing I found in planning my own wedding, and in being semi-privy to other queer weddings, was that the very fact of queerness and/or same-sex-ness sort of short circuited everyone's conscious and unconscious cultural assumptions. It's almost as though since the expectation of adhering to a traditional template wasn't there in the first place, it opened the playing field to a real sense of freedom of expression, experimentation, and individuality. YAY!