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Sexual Inadequacy: Body Shaming is Not Sexy

Few things are more disappointing to me than seeing queer people being oppressive or problematic or gross. Most of us spend a period of our lives suppressing our feelings and desires, feeling cut off from the entire world. Once we come out we can express our desires in private while still making certain to square ourselves off to fit however much of the mold a reasonable majority of our fellow citizens feels is right or proper. This should make us more compassionate people in all cases, but alas, it is not so. For instance, yesterday I watched a gay travel ad, one that depicts a series of men getting into a shower. As ordained by the sexual appetite gods they are all thin, muscular men. One after the other they climb into the shower and OH AREN'T THEY JUST THE SEXIEST? The third dude even has the "François Sagat" (Protip: Safe search!) and then, well.

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What in the fuck was that? I was having a nice little fantasy about gay cruises and communal showers and then I get a screen full of hardcore body shaming and ageism. Human beings are not grotesque, I do not find them to be grotesque. But I can certainly tell when they are being positioned as visual warnings or jokes, when I am expected to look at them as this thing that repulses me instead of a human being. But that isn't sexy. Treating other people like garbage isn't sexy at all. And then that tagline at the end: "It will surprise you." I bet it took 3 rich gay white dudes 15 minutes to come up with this commercial.

I understand being firmly rooted in your own sexuality and there is certainly a limit to how comfortable I am being touched by people I'm not having sex with. But that isn't what this is about. This is about making a joke at the expense of a real group of people. They could have just stopped at the erotic showering and I would have been convinced of the worthwhileness of their product, even if I don't have the resources to even have time to go to the website, such is the non-existence of my "World Travel Discretionary Spending" Fund for the third quarter of 2011. But instead they chose body shaming. Which is important to me, since I am a fat dude and my days of body shame are behind me. I'm not willing to be told I'm less and then shell out money to prove anyone wrong about that.

But I did go to their website to see what they offer. They are a place where queer people can purchase accommodations from other queer people who live in the destinations they want to go to, for a certain amount a day. Which is a totally cool service I might one day be looking for another company to provide for me, but not this one. Because yikers.

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Ugh. So basically it's,

Ugh. So basically it's, "women are gross! Especially fat women." Funny, because I could swear that there are gay women in existence that have, you know, money to spend.

I don't even understand the

I don't even understand the commercial. If Gay-ville provides queer folks with traveling accommodations, what does that even have to do with the woman in the shower? Fail as a commercial, fail for oppressive social reasons. Fail.