Sapphic Salon: The lesbian low-blow
If you're a famous face, the easiest way to get a scandal going is to get someone to say you're a lesbian. It doesn't even have to be true, no proof is needed — as long as you're willing to respond negatively about the situation and make being a lesbian sound like the worst thing ever.
The latest "lesbians" include Tiger Woods' mistresses, who are not only into threesomes (so therefore lesbians by association with alleged bed sharing), but are also possibly pregnant.
The press isn't questioning women on their sexuality and maternal statuses because they are genuinely interested — they want a scandalous quote they can manipulate.
Over the years, "the lesbian rumor" has been started about successful women like Hilary Clinton, Kelly Clarkson and Oprah, all whom have been forced to make statements that they are not. Did anyone seriously think they were? Maybe — but I can bet most people who reported on it or believed it in general didn't think twice about if it were actually true, just that there could be a possibility until it was denied and their straightness was defended.
Even Lindsay Lohan, who is bisexual, would like you to know she is "NOT A LESBIAN."
The "girl crush" and lesbian question seem to correlate in today's tabloids. For some reason, a popular question for well-known women tests the limits of their sexuality. (This rarely happens with men, unless it's for a gay publication.) The stories then turn into misleading headlines and a virtual "coming out" for straight people, but in the worst way possible. The quotes and headlines are not "I'm straight," but instead "I'm NOT a lesbian." It carries a negative connotation, and only harms those of us who did not ask.
Even if you're not a celebrity, being referred to as a lesbian often carries a derogatory meaning. If you aren't interested in a guy, you just might be a lesbian. If you aren't interested in dating at all, lesbian. If you have short hair, lesbian. Hey, does Kate Gosselin's 'do make her a lesbian?
Even on an episode of Seinfeld, Elaine furthered the myth when trying to out herself as straight: "I'm not a lesbian. I hate men, but I'm not a lesbian."
So what can we do about a word that means something positive in the queer community, that gets turned into an insult in the vein of "that's so gay"? They're certainly not hiring Hilary Duff to do any PSAs about that. Considering we can't control how celebrities react to questions from the press, or how they get paraphrased in the papers, all we can do is try to eliminate the stereotype and negativity surrounding "being a lesbian" (in untrue cases) within our own lives. After all, we have the best gaydar around — let's put it to work and help out those who might think they see a lesbian, but are definitely wrong.
And something that always works: Encourage the ones you do know to come out, and be proud. Then there shouldn't be any questions.
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