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Oh Joy Sex Toy: How to Eat Pussy

Each week, artist Erika Moen explores some aspect of sex and reports back on the result for her illustrated column, Oh Joy Sex Toy. This week, Erika dives deep into a topic that has gotten not nearly enough discussion: how to eat someone out. 

A comic about how to eat pussy, as illustrated by Erika Moen.

Read more sex-positive comics by Erika Moen, including an interview with genderqueer porn star Jiz Lee


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This is amazing. Thank

This is amazing. Thank you!
Not sure why you had to use the word 'cunt' so unnecessarily, though.

Cunt is a pretty amazing word

Cunt is a pretty amazing word actually ... one worth recaliming for all the right reasons ... http://kickingupmyheelsonmetamorphosisroad.blogspot.co.uk/search/label/Cunt

Seconded!

Love the word. So powerful and all-encompassing. :)

Grow up.

Grow up.

Not everyone is interested in

Not everyone is interested in reclaiming harmful words. Sometimes they're just too painful and that's not "childish."

Agreed.

Agreed.

Why is this man dickless?

The man in this cartoon is dickless, while the woman parts abound. What's that about?

Possibly this is a trans*,

Possibly this is a trans*, rather than cis, man.

He looks pretty dickless, and

He looks pretty dickless, and regardless of if he's trans or not..

WHY IS HE NEKKID?
Someone please highlight why that's necessary for this comic strip? The woman giving instruction isn't, and the partner giving cunninglingus later in the comic isn't the naked dickless person.

No wonder I don't use this site. I just get angry at all the hypocrisy.

Have you ever read Oh Joy Sex

Have you ever read Oh Joy Sex Toy before? In general, the character "asking" the question (used to represent the ask-ee) is naked. Most people are in various states of undress.

'Dickless' in the sense that there's something else instead

He seems to have a vagina.

He's trans, duh.

He's trans, duh.

There are tons of men without

There are tons of men without penises out there, friend.

I think he is a trans* man or

I think he is a trans* man or perhaps has a small penis? All types exist...

They could be trans. Not

They could be trans. Not everything in life is about being hetero and cis-gendered. Guys can have a vagina and all "dicks" look different. In case you didn't get the message from the diagram of the labia, clit etc, all parts look different for everyone and that's just fine.

It's not a conspiracy

1. Erika's masturbators represents a wide range of ethnicities, gender, and sexual orientation, etc.

2. The person in the comic might not be a man.

3. Not all men have penises and not all women have vulvas.

4. Not all women have breasts and some women have short hair and facial hair.

5. Some men have vaginas.

6. etc.

The answer is simple: trans people exist!

Not all men have penises (and some women do!).

It's not safe to assume that everyone around you is cisgender (a word that means non-transgender). From what I can infer, and what I know from reading some of Erika's other work, she is in a relationship with a transgender man.

Need more info on trans people? This is a good resource to get you started (if you go into it with an open mind, of course): http://transwhat.org/confused

^

Could be a trans man..... not all men have dicks.

You don't need a penis to

You don't need a penis to make a cunnilingus or to give pleasure... that's all.

Gobsmacked

For a few of reasons:

  1. Great comic and...
  2. Definitely a topic that doesn't get anywhere near enough discussion but...
  3. "You may be tempted to jump straight to the clit but let me advise you to work up to that guy..." Seriously? If you had to inject a gendered word here for the love of oxygen why not "gal?!?!?!"

I really need an explanation

I really need an explanation as to why there's a random naked trans person in this graphic. I'd get it if the person was engaged in sex but they're just standing around asking questions... is the only way to include trans people in these cartoons to display our bodies for confused cis people to ask questions about? Trans people are constantly interrogated about our bodies - it's actually the only thing people care to know about us- so can you look for a way of including trans people that doesn't perpetuate this?

Aren't there always?

Aren't there always random naked people (or all kinds) standing around while she's explaining things? I've only been a fan for a short time, but I thought that was a recurring theme...

Not a random person, a "Masturabateer"!

The "Masturbateers" are all the naked question-askers and stuff-doers in OJST, and they come in all different shapes, genderings and orientations. I have a crush on a few of them. You can see many more of them in the other comics.

So random trans people,

So random trans people, identifiable as trans, are only allowed in a graphic if they're having sex.

Speaking of perpetuating issues with the public and trans people ...

I agree---explanation please.

When I first saw this, I thought that this was a comic with a regular transmasculine character appearing in it. I was super excited. I went through the entire Oh Joy Sex Toy series online, only to find that there wasn't really. One of the episodes did have a transman talk about a harness, which I thought was fine, helpful. I'm still confused, though, as to the trans person (presumably) in this most recent episode, and frankly, pretty pissed about it--more so after having read the series.

Throughout the series none of the "random masturbateers" were "visually" transmasculine--with "man with a vagina"-type cues. Until this "pussy episode." What the fuck.

Also, what is up with the "educational dynamic" between said-random transman and the author? Why would he not know anything about this topic? Because he think's the author is crass and shouldn't be implying that he has these "pussy" parts or however he/she themselves body-identifies? DEFINITELY NO HIGH FIVES FOR THIS EPISODE. and wow I just noticed the key-hole surgery visual cues on the transman's (does he have a name ) chest, now i'm just getting more disappointed/confused/angry/sad/ what have you.

So I'm going to stop now, but I feel I have wasted some time online reading the entire comic, then realizing that i now feel pretty insulted. It's easy for visual communication to come across as vague--call me sensitive (i'm a man with a clit) but this seems pretty mis-representative and disrespectful.

This is awesome! So, I have a

This is awesome! So, I have a request -- something that I've never, ever found is a smart, witty, norm-bending guide to fellatio. I appreciate seeing an upsurge on intelligent how-to's on approaching the biologically female body. Similarly smart how-to's on male bodies would totally carry things an extra step. Have any resources, or care to take it up? Thanks!

I Loved This!

Thanks for a wonderful comic! The step-by-step directions remind me of backstage at The Family Circus.

Please forgive me if I'm part of the problem here, though, but openly wondering where her partner's penis was is, I think, a fair question that could have been answered more gently in the comments. Sometimes we don't know our questions are unenlightened, but it certainly doesn't help when they are answered with such Web 2.0 exasperation. Don't we want more questions and dialogue rather than fear of asking them?

Also - Goddammit! - why can't the clitoris be called a "guy" without recrimination? In the context of the strip it is clearly a gender-neutral word.

Would you call a penis in

Would you call a penis in this context "gal" or "girl?" I think no.

What I find objectionable about calling the clit "guy" in this context the standardization that says:

male = standard while female = variant.

In English we automatically default to male and, frankly, I'm frakking sick of it.

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- If you don't want the monster you don't pull the lever.

May I add to this? Not sure

May I add to this? Not sure what works best for your partner? Try tracing letters over the clit and labia as you start, to get a sense of what movements -- flicks vs. long strokes, which angles, prolonged time in one spot or moving around constantly -- they like. Go through the alphabet (multiple alphabets!), their name, your favourite line of poetry... whatever gets you off -- and feels less like a science experiment :P

Fantastic infographic! It

Fantastic infographic! It is so rare that I feel like someone is walking me through things rather than talking at me! I loved your genderless clueless person wondering all nakat in the comic! Thats ME! Im a cis dude but when it comes to pulling a Margaret Atwood ima babe in the pubic forest. I understand fucking (cis fucking) and plowing the proverbial field and all but when it comes time to the finer aquaculture I am suck/stick in the mud!
I hope to wallow like a clam for a few days! Ta!

you can practice on me! you

you can practice on me! you know, for science ;)

Be careful

Especially when having sex with a trans person, make sure to ask them what they call their bodies and which parts are off-limits (if some parts are). Trans people who have been on testosterone will have differently looking and differently working parts from something you might have experienced, and not all sensations that are hi lighted above will be pleasant! A lot of trans men especially refer to themselves as having a penis rather than a clitoris, so this is also something to bear in mind when talking about giving head. Definitely ask preferences before you start (rather than trying things out), because you could hurt or upset someone if you don't!

pintrest!

why why can't i add this to pintrest :{ must go on my v word board it must please

If I were to get this printed

If I were to get this printed and frame it on my bedroom wall for unprepared men, would that be such a bad thing?

Is anyone else concerned that

Is anyone else concerned that the guy doesn't have any private parts? :P

www.google.com learn

www.google.com

learn something.

A note on gender-neutral characters

Because some commenters seem to be confused by or misrepresentative of the gender of the character asking Erika questions at the beginning of the strip, I wanted to share this explanation from OJST's website, which I found immensely helpful and clarifying:

"As explained on OJST’s debut strip, the Masturbateers are fictional, gender-neutral characters who portray the use of the sex toys that Erika is reviewing. Their pronouns as individuals are “They, Them and Their” and they refer to their genitalia by their medical, anatomical names. Though OJST uses the medical names of genitals in the comic, we respect and support that real life people do not all refer to their own genitalia with this terminology. The Masturbateers’ sexuality is: Horny."

Note: this text is from the Oh Joy Sex Toy website. I did not write this explanation myself.

Most of the comments in this

Most of the comments in this section stand out to me as exactly why I'm not really into this publication anymore. So much cis-sexist feminism up in here. It is frigged up. Honestly, some of the comments on here are in mind-blowingly ignorant and offensive. If you can't see the ways in which this comic is deeply problematic, I suggest looking to some other media outlets to get better educated on trans* rights and representation. Bitch is dropping the ball huge.

And also, the thing about gendering the clit by calling it a "guy," - I feel as though if that is the biggest problem you are walking away with after reading this thing, you're missing the point.

Great comic almost ruined by comments

I had such a great positive buzz going on while reading the comic. But the I made the basic mistake and the feeling was mostly killed by commenters totally dropping the ball and losing focus on the point of the piece of art here. Oh why do I read comments? Why!

Anyway, good work disseminating crucial information. Thanks!

You're a goddess

I would just like to thank the goddess that wrote this. I think it should be shared with everyone. I sent this to my SO as, "oh, isn't this a funny cartoon..." Wink wink nudge nudge. Well, this amazing dude took it seriously and I just got this best oral I've had...period. I don't believe in god, but damn it...god bless you.

How to Eat Pussy

The best help on " How to Eat PUSSY " thanks, lmbjlessow

Hygiene First, PLEASE

This article should be part 2 of a series, part one being cleanliness and hygiene.

How many have been taught a proper method of cleaning the vulva and vagina from:
-Urine- after urination, and after wearing clothes that may have been exposed to urination
-Stool- removing all fecal matter from body after defecation, after wearing exposed clothing, after anal-vaginal sex
-Blood- during and after menstruation, after shaving intimate areas
-Sweat
-Dead skin cells
-Other possible discharges

How many people can describe cleansing methods that are known to remove these materials, some of which hospitals treat as BIOHAZARDS? (Men excrete all of these as well, so there is no bias here.)

How then can exposing the inner tissues of the mouth to the vagina even be a topic when neither men nor women have a clue about sexual hygiene?

People don't know whether their genitals are clean or even that they should be. The idea is dangerous and disgusting, and if the author wants to educate people about sex, let him/her/etc. start with hygiene.

http://m24digital.com/en/2012/01/28/the-human-papilloma-virus-hpv-is-mor...

Cunt Context

I tihnk the use of the word cunt can be good or bad depending on the context. If its used for abusive or misogynistic reasons them obvs its not good. BUT if its used for talking dirty or to make sex tips less formal then IMO it is all good!

Everyone's a critic

This is a great article about eating pussy, which I love to do. Read the article for what it is and if you don't like the wording, then move on to another one. If the guy being naked and not having a wiener bothers you, move on to another article. Why criticize irrelevant details that have nothing to do with the crux of the article, which is how to be a better pussy eater?