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Oh Joy Sex Toy: DIY BDSM

In Oh Joy Sex Toy, intrepid comics artists experiment with an aspect of sex and illustrate the result. This week: The couple behind Try It, You'll Like It shares some DIY BDSM tips.  

A comic about stocking up on BDSM supplies from hardware stores

For more about BDSM and consent, read Safe Words: The History of Anti-Abuse Activism in BDSM.  


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Hooray for the content of

Hooray for the content of this one! Not so hooray for the imagery... What I've loved about the comics so far is that they include all sorts of orientations and such. This one was not only just heterosexual, but also played into the heteronormative man as the dominant, woman as the submissive stereotype a little, which is a real shame. Not so gone on some of the girl character's facial expressions either.

I just thought I'd comment in the interest of debate - I know that most BDSM practitioners are heterosexual and fall into the dominant-man, submissive-woman category, but I was surprised with the lack of diversity in that regard (two girls would have been nice, maybe, or two guys) when it's what we've seen all along with Oh Joy Sex Toy.

I love the series, and, as I say, hooray for the content of this one!

Agreed. It would have been

Agreed. It would have been nice to at least see them mix it up a bit.

totally agree.

totally agree.

This is based on the

This is based on the experiences of an actual heterosexual couple who have their own website and share their own personal experiences. I feel like what you see as lack of diversity in this particular comic (not the case in any other comic) is just Adam and Valerie (the couple) doing their thing, because the comic is about how they find and use their "pervertables." Unless they incorporate others into their play, representing them talking about their stuff and what they do with it means drawing them as is.

That is to say, don't fault Moen for representing this couple as they are (hetero, female sub, male dom).

I was about to point this out

I was about to point this out to the other commenters, but you did it for me!

I haven't read a lot of these

I haven't read a lot of these yet, but you say they're usually diverse... So having a hetero couple where the woman is the sub and the man is the dom IS diverse, and is all good as long as it isn't the only scenario used! Just because it plays into a stereotype doesn't have to make it negative. It makes it real. Hetero couples exist. Female sub-male dom relationships exist. If I denied the similar kinks in my relationship, I would find that degrading.

Not to mention, it sounded like this was based on an actual couple... I cannot think of anything more oppressive in this situation than having them illustrated as others just for the sake of appearing to be more of a minority group.

Everything about this comic is spot on!

O..kay

I agree with the previous comments. YAWN. Hetero-Normative and completely unimaginative/unoriginal.
Plus, many things found in hardware stores are not only unsanitary, but also dangerous when used by the vanilla crowd. Unless you're totally into allergic reactions and such!
C'mon Erica!
Draw something for Grownups!
Twisty ties/paint sticks are teenager stuff!

I disagree-- the comic

I disagree-- the comic represents a REAL couple. Anyway, I'm sure there are plenty of people who haven't previously thought of going to a hardware store for DIY sex stuff. And shouldn't you sanitize the things you buy at any store? I appreciated the comic, and don't see the point in all the hate!

This comic is by Valerie and Adam

Just to clarify, the only part of this comic Erika Moen drew is the intro panel. Oh Joy Sex Toy is her series, but (as stated at the top of the post) this comic was written and drawn by the couple who run Try It, You'll Like It.


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I work in one of the biggest

I work in one of the biggest hardware stores around - the idea that people can do such fun things with boring objects tickled me pink.

Next time someone asks me where the paint stirrers are, I'll probably have to bite back a grin. "Oooooh, you need one of those~?" LOL. Looks like there's a party in aisle fifteen!

Feminist Killjoy! :D

Really enjoyed this--the

Really enjoyed this--the drawings are cute, and I would never have thought of most of these uses of common household/hardware objects. In fact, I was just complaining today about how much of a pain it is--no pun intended--to find fun equipment to experiment with sex-wise, since good-quality sex toys can be costly, and it's difficult to justify a major investment in something when you haven't really gotten a chance to try out the kink. Definitely logging some of these suggestions away...

Get over yourselves

Considering this post was told from the perspective of a Daddy/little daughter couple as an FYI, it is perfect. If this was a YouTube video would you be complaining because the couple that produced it didn't magically change genders? Would you demand they change their lifestyle choice to become Domme and sissy boy? The comic was very clear from the beginning as to its purpose, speakers, and, audience. And given how clearly this was established, you guys weren't critiquing you were criticizing, and that's pathetic and shameful.

As an example of critiquing, since some of you have displayed an incredible lack of understanding:
Other than wanting a side note about why not for suspension with a nod to the best places to look for that sort of specialty item, I thought this was a very nice piece. This is my first view of one of your comics but all the graphics did a nice job of displaying expression and role. The shopping cart was a nice touch in that we all knew we were looking at a Daddy/little relationship. Keep up the good work.

I fully agree. As with any

I fully agree. As with any community, kink tends to look down on the mundanes, and to forget that there was a time when all of us were new to it. There's an amazing snobbery about sex toys, but a good Dom/me can make cheap hardware store ropes, for example, get the sub where s/he's going just as easily as s/he could with expensive ones bought at a toy shop.

The panel about rods hit me (no pun intended) where I live, they're one of the few things Sir has tried (with my consent, of course) that made me stop the scene, and I'm glad He didn't pay 6-8 times as much for basically the same thing with an pretty handle..

Of course, I'm sure that some of the above commenters will read this reply and sniff that I'm just a vanilla little hetgirl, and they're welcome to think that, while forgetting how annoying it is to be judged by people who have no idea what they're talking about.

Oh, yes!

I fully agree. As with any community, kink tends to look down on the mundanes, and to forget that there was a time when all of us were new to it. There's an amazing snobbery about sex toys, but a good Dom/me can make cheap hardware store ropes, for example, get the sub where s/he's going just as easily as s/he could with expensive ones bought at a toy shop.

The panel about rods hit me (no pun intended) where I live, they're one of the few things Sir has tried (with my consent, of course) that made me stop the scene, and I'm glad He didn't pay 6-8 times as much for basically the same thing with an pretty handle.

Of course, I'm sure that some of the above commenters will read this reply and sniff that I'm just a vanilla little hetgirl, and they're welcome to think that, while forgetting how annoying it is to be judged by people who have no idea what they're talking about.