Adventures in Feministory: The History of the Babysitter
Okay, full disclosure, right up front: I'm a babysitter. Like, professionally. So maybe my fascination with the history of this job comes from a place of pure self absorption. Then again, there's a good chance many of you readers have been babysitters at some point (BSC-inspired flyers around the neighborhood advertising your services? A totally undesirable but obligatory gig watching a younger family member?), and besides, the history of the babysitter brings up some issues much larger than diapers and bedtime, like our culture's anxiety with the financial and sexual independence of girls.
Miriam Forman-Brunell has written a book-length study of babysitters called Babysitter: An American History (available now at the Bitch Community Lending Library!), which details the realities and cultural fantasies about babysitting from its advent in the early 20th century to its "fall" in the first decade of the 21st. I'll lay out some key points of Forman-Brunell's history, but if you're itching to know more, this is a book worth paging through, if only for the guilty joy of reading the various sensationalist accounts of the evils of babysitters (there's an entire section on urban myths—remember the sitter who put the baby in the oven and the turkey in the crib?).
According to Forman-Brunell, the rise of the babysitter coincided with the rise of the teenage girl as a cultural phenomenon in the 1920s. Babysitting was a compromise between "teenage girls' desire for personal freedom and adults' expectations that they stay close to home." A babysitting job comes with personal responsibility and a little bit of money, but it also keeps a girl right smack in the domestic sphere, where she can be expected to work on her lady skills and also be watched verrry closely. Sort of. Actually, the crux of Forman-Brunell's argument is that even though a babysitting job was seen by parents and the culture as this compromise enabling them to keep girls in their place, because it meant leaving girls alone to look after the children and themselves the anxiety would never cease. Never. Ever. From the early babysitters who were accused of flirting with men on street corners while the babies toddled out under the wheels of horseless carriages, to later ones who were supposedly too busy text messaging to notice that their charge was chugging Drano (or that the murderer was up in the bedroom!), babysitters have apparently never been trusted. For my part, reading Forman-Brunell's book has succeeded in making me a bit paranoid that no one thinks I'm competent, even though I like to think of myself as a nanny (there's a difference!) and I'm no longer one of those terrifying teens society loves to hate.
Speaking of terrifying teens: Babysitting and greater freedom of sexual expression for girls have had a tricky relationship. There are seemingly zillions of movies (porn and mainstream) about super-sexy sitters, based on adult male fantasies about the sexual willingness of teenage girls. Forman-Brunell writes that beginning in the 1960s, girls' freedom to express themselves sexually gave rise to a desire to control them: thus the endless pornos in which sitters become conquests, and also the slew of slasher movies where they're controlled in another way.
Although these kinds of fantasies about controlling the babysitter continued to exist (even in kids' books: hi, R.L. Stine!), as the 20th century drew to a close, sitters were influenced by the feminist movements to band together and demand that they be treated fairly and paid well. Hence the rise of the Baby-Sitters Club series and similar books, in which girls worked together to take back control of the job.
Forman-Brunell's account of the history of the babysitter was really interesting, but I did find myself wishing she'd opened up her study and not rested quite so much on assumptions about who babysitters are and were. The book relies on a stereotypical image of the sitter: young, white, middle-class, female. Forman-Brunell explains at the beginning that her study focuses on this image because it's so widespread, but I'd love to read more about the realities of teenagers and childcare using a broader lens. Why are girls of color erased from this history? What about boys who babysit? What about babysitting from a cross-cultural perspective, or an interrogation of the depiction of mental illness in stories about babysitting (more than one sitter in the stories gathered in Forman-Brunell's book "goes crazy" for one reason or another)? What have you read about the history of babysitting or childcare that addresses the issues Forman-Brunell chose not to tackle?
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