The person with whom you have decided to have a monogamous relationship owes you fidelity, as you owe that person the fidelity you also promised. If that person breaks that promise, I can guarantee one thing: he or she made the choice to do so.
Today's BitchTapes is dedicated to that traditional end-of-summer treat... (no, not fudgesicles!) The Road Trip. So play on playa, cause you're looking at 8 songs for, and about, the joys of the open road. Track list after the jump!
But I am writing to you today not to talk about lady business. Instead I want to talk about how we are both mixed race Southeast Asian high femme ladies, and you are the first mixed race Southeast Asian lady I have ever seen on American television (I am not counting Cassie because she had hardly a line in Step Up 2: The Streets). Your work at the Daily Show has made me feel sad, alone, and quite a bit like crying, despite the fact that I have a shriveled angry little anti-racist feminist heart, and it's rare that things on TV hurt my feelings anymore.
I'm not going to argue about whether or not you got where you got because the male-dominated worlds of gaming and comedy value women who are beautiful, over women who are competently funny, because that horse has been beat to death. And also, comedy is pretty subjective and obviously you have a lot of fans, so clearly there is an audience for your style.
What angers me about your comedy, Olivia Munn, is how it is built on gleeful collusion with misogyny and racism. If we're talking about the race stuff, unlike other comedians of colour (Katt Williams! Dave Chappelle! Russell Peters!) whose jokes—while hit or miss with the kyriarchy—rely on poking fun at white racism, your jokes generally rely on racist stereotypes about your own damn people, to get a laugh out of a racist white audience.
The polarization that surrounds discussions about works of pop culture created by women can sometimes make it really hard to fairly and honestly critique female creators. We all internalize misogyny to some extent and I am never surprised, though I am disappointed, when it expresses in pop culture critiques.
We have to be able to strike a balance.
It is necessary to evaluate and critique all pop culture, no matter the gender of the creator. Being a woman does not make you immune from criticism when your work is problematic. At the same time, we need to recognize that there is a history when it comes to talking about art created by women. A history of bringing discussions about personal lives into discussions of art, of picking female creative professionals apart personally, not just professionally, of expressing some internalized tropes in the way we interact with art created by women.
Last Friday night, reality TV star/pop singer Tila Tequila was attacked by concertgoers at the 11th annual Gathering of the Juggalos in rural Southern Illinois. But you probably already knew that.
It's a story made in gossip blog heaven; a Playboy-model-turned-Myspace-celebrity-turned-reality-TV-star being attacked by the fans of the self-appointed "Most Hated Band in Music." Yet, both Tequila and the Insane Clown Posse are comparatively unpopular and disrespected, so why is it that Tila Tequila is the one getting the bad rap?!
In more than three decades as an author, radio host, and moral
proselytizer Laura Schlessinger has been called out more than once. In
1998, the woman lambasted the irrationality of her fellow
vagina-Americans in the bestselling book Ten Stupid Things Women Do to
Mess Up Their Lives was confronted with her own moral lapses when nude
photos of her—taken by the radio host Bill Ballance, with whom she had
an extramarital affair—surfaced and were gleefully passed around the
web. In 2000, as Schlessinger prepared to launch a televised talk show,
gay activists who took exception to her view that homosexuality is "a
biological error" that should preclude gay couples from adopting
children launched the watchdog site StopDrLaura.com.
(The talk show tanked fairly quickly, after more than 170 of its
advertisers pulled out in response to StopDrLaura's efforts.) In 2009,
numerous news and opinions outlets pointed out that her new book, In Praise of Stay-At-Home Moms, was an example of blatant hypocrisy, given that she herself had never been a stay-at-home mother.
Have you seen the new covergirl of Bitch magazine yet? The Make-Believe issue is coming soon, but you have a chance to read three articles from the new issue before you get a unicorn of your own in your mailbox (wait, did I just invent the worst best euphemism ever?).
Sarah Jaffe remarks on the women of the Tea Party ("Tea Stained"), Tammy Oler covers the emerging trend of Tech Craft ("Making Geek Chic"), and Jonanna Widner asks, "Is Justin Bieber a lesbian hair icon or is it the other way around?" ("Top of the Pops"). Check 'em out below, and you can always read select articles from the magazine on our Articles page.
Many times I've heard fat cisgendered women, mainly fat white cisgendered women, suggest that fatphobia is the "last acceptable form of bigotry." For women without multiple oppressions, I suppose that statement could be correct. But for those who are living at the intersections of many marginalized identities, nothing could be further from the truth.
What do Mary Daly, Margaret Sanger, Nellie McClung, Martha Griffiths, Gloria Steinem, Geraldine Ferraro, Julie Bendel, Robin Morgan, Germaine Greer, Elizabeth Cady Stanton, Janice Raymond, Sheila Jeffreys, and Beth Elliott have in common?
You were going to tell me they're feminist icons, weren't you? Awww, how cute.
Celebrities and advertising are like birds of a feather, so it's no wonder that even our most beloved public figures (I'm looking at you, Queen Latifah) usually end up trying to sell us something. And hey, sometimes it works. I mean, would any of us have tried delicious Jell-O pudding pops without the endorsement of a certain celebrity?