Bitch tipster alert! According to a trusted source (one of our sharpy-sharp readers), OkCupid, the popular (and free) online dating site, has a semi-secret policy that favors those who have been deemed the most attractive. Say what!?
Then I started pinpointing where my discomfort rested: though people—including me—sexualized Mr. Gore (on Twitter, at least) either as object of lust or of sexual derision, rarely did I hear anyone say the same either way about Ms. Gore.
Looking at Bitch’s archives, I know some people might have known—if not celebrated—National Masturbation Month, which was last month (and every May). But I has this nagging feeling that, as much as we talk about feminism freeing people from oppression’s proverbial yokes to explore what turns them on, feminism isn’t really discussing probably one of the first sexual acts that some of us have done beyond the basic, "We’re doing it! An instant feminist move forward! Yay us!"
But I like to check my reality—especially concerning who "us" and "we" are--so I posed the question to my Facebook and Twitter crews: what do you think is missing in feminist conversations about masturbation?
The men who debased Kat Stacks defined her as a "ho" who had to be "put in her place" by assaulting her into apologizing for her honesty because, according to how society views and treats women who are forthrightly sexual (even when they’re honest about getting paid for sex), that’s how such women are supposed to be treated. In fact, goes the idea, they deserve such violence. Slut-shaming in extremis.
Yes, I said Samantha from Sex and the City is a Size Queen. But I'd never call Samantha a cougar.
Neither would Kim Cattrall--and she refuses the label for herself. To the point she refused to pose with an actual cougar on a highly popular magazine aimed at women over 40. (Just watch the first 40 seconds. The rest of the interview is standard feature-writing 101, ice-breaker questions.)
I guess I should have seen it crouching in the corners of the workshop. It lurked in a chat I had with another woman about my recent post on Trojan Magnums and its trading on the Big Black Penis stereotype...
As much as we complain about hip-hop and rap staying mostly "unconscious" about reproductive-justice issues (the only cut to this day discussing pro-choice options is Digable Planets’ "Femme Fetale"—and that came out 15 years ago), artists have spat about prophylactic use, specifically Trojan Magnums.
Now, Ludacris is doing his part to spread more of the large latex love by teaming up with the company for its very first ad campaign, a contest where people can create their own paeans to the brand. The winner gets $5,000 and a trip to the hip-hop festival Birthday Bash, to be held in Atlanta in June, and personal congrats from the rapper/actor himself.
As much as we complain about hip-hop and rap staying mostly "unconscious" about reproductive-justice issues (the only cut to this day discussing pro-choice options is Digable Planets’ "Femme Fetale"—and that came out 15 years ago), 
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