I am dealing with a difficult situation involving my partner of three years and many friends and acquaintances. A few years ago I was in an abusive relationship with a man I met through the music scene. He sexually and emotionally abused me and used me financially.
My partner of over 8 years has been a consistent feminist since day one. He will speak up when people say sexist things, he's pro-choice, not conservative, and treats me like his equal. He has said how he thinks it is out of line when men tell their girlfriends they can't wear revealing clothing. However, last weekend we were out with another couple and someone mentioned a nudist colony.
I have been with my current partner for over two years now and we are happily living together with set plans to get married in the very near future. My partner has a few friends that I sometimes I ask myself how a smart and insightful person such as himself could be friends with, but I've brushed it off as nothing until today. My partner has a certain friend who is extremely (not that you can place racism on a continuum scale) racist towards Middle Eastern people.
I am currently in a relationship with my childhood sweetheart. She is a rape survivor and we have been together for over seven years now (since we graduated from high school). But lately, I'm getting tired of her really low self-esteem and how it's preventing her from: 1. Getting a job, 2. Getting back into university, and 3. Doing just about anything that would bring food to the table.
I need some help on how to talk to a friend about her flirting technique. We're not particularly close, but we do go out to bars and clubs together sometimes as part of a group, and we've known each other since high school (almost a decade now). Her way of flirting generally consists of pretending guys are annoying her, being sarcastic and dismissive, and playing hard to get. Essentially she says "no" when she means "yes" a lot.
Welcome to Ms. Opinionated, our weekly advice column dealing with questions of life, love, feminism, and pop culture. Submit your anonymous questions here. This week, Nicole Georges takes on a question from a server who has to deal with a big ol' pile of sexism at her job. Nicole responds with a comic!
I am a server at a chain steakhouse restaurant. I'm wondering what kind of advice or suggestions you might have regarding sexist comments that customers make.
I don't like sex at all, and in fact it brings up some traumatic memories. It's painful for me to be around sexual situations. Even seeing certain phrases or behaviors makes me panic, and this makes my sex-positive friends very angry with me. How can I live my life in peace without having to deal with sexual material all the time?
Welcome to Ms. Opinionated, our weekly advice column dealing with questions of life, love, feminism, and pop culture. This week, Sydette Harry takes on a question about feeling like you're a "bad" feminist.
Dear Ms Opinionated,
I'm a 22-year-old female who never saw myself as a feminist. Only recently, when I started reading up on feminism on a whim, did I realise that I actually agree with many "feminist" views (e.g. wage equality, availability of emergency contraception, abortion rights and anti-rape culture).
Welcome to Ms. Opinionated, our weekly advice column dealing with questions of life, love, feminism, and pop culture. This week, Nicole Georges takes on a question we've all had: How do you deal with an intolerable dude who constantly applauds how enlightened he is?
I have a guy who is in my circle of friends who is quite loud an opinionated. He's your typical white, middle class, privileged male who knows everything. He can be fun in small doses, but he's also a racist, homophobic misogynist—and makes excuses like he hates everyone equally or is only kidding.